Let’s save Wheat Day update for tomorrow. Tonight, I vent.
Earlier tonight I had a text argument with MJ.
Background: I met MJ on OK Cupid about four years ago. I had just ended an almost six year relationship and was, honestly, just looking for some fun. OK Cupid seems to be a place for that, which is why I run like hell from it now. Har. But I digress.
MJ ended up being the perfect person with whom to have meaningless sex. He was good looking and I was definitely sexually attracted to him. And he was especially sure of himself, in the bedroom, which I love even more. What made him perfect for meaningless sex was not that he was attractive and, mostly, good in bed…it was that he’s arrogant (he actually asked me if I thought he fit the clinical definition of narcissistic…at least he know too!). And he seems to lack empathy. If you ask me, he’s anti-social, not narcissistic, but he’s not on my couch. Makes him perfect for this because there no chance of developing feelings for someone like that. The “relationship” can then stay intact. Right? *wink*
After messing around for a few months, and getting a little tired of MJ’s selfishness in bed and shitty attitude, we stopped hanging out. It was about 6 months later that MJ popped up out of the blue asking to get together again. I hesitated and was up front with him about my waning interest due to the aforementioned reasons. Ah ha, I gave him the golden key. Now he knew that the way to get me was to be nice. And it worked…for a short time. It was during this short time that he found another golden key. I had a ouple of firsts with him, all in one night. He has sine christened himself the King and I think only solidified his interest in me. I think it’s why he keeps popping up even here and there. But…he inevitably messes it up again but reverting to dick mode; he can only sustain nice for so long, me thinks.
He’s since gotten into a relationship. And still calls me. I have told him that I’m not interested in helping him cheat and he gives me various, f’ed up reason why it’s okay; one reason he gave is that he can’t be his normal (read: dirty) sexual self with his girlfriend. That’s apparently what I am supposed to be for. I think not. His latest “fantasy” is banging me in my office, after plying me with drinks at happy hour first. Funny, I don’t even drink much but apparently he thinks I do.
So, without further ado, check out tonight’s frivolity:
Am I wrong here, people?
Six months to 40 
That is hilarious! This guy’s obviously a tectonic d-bag. You just need to know who you’re involved with here. Know it. Know what I mean?
Heh!
Yeah, it’s why I keep him at arm’s length; I know his niceties are short lived and that he’ll do something to piss me off.
And yet he keeps comin’ back.
Glad you enjoyed it.
Yet you keep him coming back.
Sort of.
I would say I indulge him by exchanging emails back and forth. I haven’t been with him for 2.5 years.
However, I think I get your point and it’s one well taken. It’s just so entertaining, after the frustrations wears off. We humans are complex.
Amazing to me how much I didn’t know about myself until I went through a terrible relationship. Wrote a whole book based on the experience.
Nice. One needs emotion, and the ability to tap into it, to create. And I think it’s interesting how much we can learn from difficult, heart wrenching experiences. It why we should allow ourselves to feel because there is a lot of wisdom to be derived from emotion. How awesome that out of a failed relationship came self-awareness and a work of art. That’s the way to live!